Step 9: Develop Your Story & Your Voice

Clueless Dude Gets a Clue
Outsider Sneaks Inside
How about “Globe Trekker Finds Select Few Who’ve Healed Themselves of What He Has”

So, it’s “Man on a Mission,” and actually, I’ve had people call me that on various forums online.

I came down with tinnitus in 2002 on February 15th at 4:30PM. It had been a very stressful day, and I had either forgotten to eat, or I hadn’t eaten well. I came home after a meeting with a completely insane and crazy-making client, and I was really really tired. Before passing out with my clothes on, I had 2 very distinct, very clear, and very personal thoughts. My wife came home at 4:30 and as she was opening the door to our apartment, I woke up and my head was totally smooshed into my pillow, and my neck was turned way farther than usual. I lifted my head and heard a really loud CRACK, followed by a Pschhhhhhhhhh and a howl that was less of a sound than a gut-wrenching feeling of dread, like a million angels howling “noooooo!”

Though I’d been in a state of overwhelm with my life, I then entered a state of panic and desperate spending. I could crane my neck to relieve the tinnitus somewhat. I got kicked out of a local tinnitus specialty clinic (I mean this), just because I asked them about my teeth. They said “we do ears, not teeth,” I said, “but the whole area is connected and I have pain here…” I tried to talk with them logically about how when I clenched my jaw, the tinnitus changed. They asked me to leave and sent me a letter asking me to never come back. My general practitioner laughed at me and told me that it would only get worse. My audiologist told me my hearing was fine. And I went into a tailspin that had me contemplating taking my own life.

After a weekend smothered by the velvety, dark blanket of despair, I figured I’d try some treatments, just to see. I wound up flying around the world, getting better and better, and also getting closer and closer to the realization that: The best way to heal from tinnitus is to learn from people who had already healed themselves. At that point, I traded in my frequent flyer miles on some server space and upgraded what had been a support forum and web log of my progress into a platform that would compel the world’s experts on tinnitus to grant me interviews.

To make a long but satisfying story short and pithy: It worked. My whirlwind ended with the creation of CureTinnitus.org, which has become a resting place for the select few individuals out there smart and daring enough to claim true healing as their goal. We’ve designed a program called “From Tinnitus to Liberation,” that helps both recent onset and chronic cases, and the more I hang out with people who’ve healed their tinnitus, the better mine gets, and the more grateful I am for having had it. CureTinnitus.org has become a compendium of targeted, specific healing knowledge available nowhere else, guided by me and Julian Cowan Hill, and contributed to by the most successful tinnitus practitioners in the world. We are growing, we are well-informed, we care, and we can help you.

Join us now, relief awaits.

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KevinR
Post subject: Re: Exercise 9: My Story and Voice
Post Posted: Fri Oct 30, 2009 3:33 am
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Fantastic, Dainis. Only, I wish you didn’t sell out on the part where you discover a cure. It goes from you searching to: “It worked”.

While you don’t need to give away the whole story here, it’d be nice to get a sense of the transition (relief) of finding a cure an returning to some sense of normalcy.

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Post subject: Re: Exercise 9: My Story and Voice
Post Posted: Fri Oct 30, 2009 4:22 am
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These are the stages of liberation from tinnitus that Julian Cowan Hill and I designed for our Tinnitus to Liberation Program:

1) Finding Hope:
Getting unstuck What is the path to getting better
2) Easing Struggle:
Accepting responsibility and opening to change
3) Accepting your role in tinnitus.
Orienting to health. Tinnitus as a means of letting go. Resignation as a path to acceptance. The importance of acceptance. Accepting responsibility. Encouraging people. This is a tough level.
4) Putting your motivation to work
Gaining Motivation. Channeling developing. Putting your motivation to positive use. Making your motivation work for you.
Letting go
5) Letting go:
It’s all about you’re much better now how to handle the wobbles shit happens how to cope in that situation. Letting go if it comes back. What to do if it comes back. Letting go continuously.
6) Gaining power over tinnitus.
Getting empowered. Empowered. Claiming your power. Feeling empowered. Gaining empowerment. Letting tinnitus empower you. Claiming empowerment. Turning. Gaining gratitude through empowerment. Thank the tinnitus. Sit and drop into a deep state of calm. Using the tinnitus for health. Tinnitus is keeping me on track. Trusting the health of tinnitus. Gaining power.
7) Liberation
Liberating others
Recognizing the health of tinnitus.
Being present
There’s no sense of I’m like this or this is the way I am. It isn’t possible to have tinnitus in that state.

Here’s the deal: I’m at about stage 6. I have stretches where I am not aware of it. It is a teacher, and I am learning from it. I am learning to listen to my body. As I progress, I look back at these steps, especially if I wind up a bit stuck from time to time, however, if I feel stuck, it is very easy for me to reach to my experience, the exercises I know, etc., also, I have experience applying direct techniques to silence tinnitus spikes, and, unlike many of our members, the spike simply has no ability to send me into a tailspin whirlwind of confusion…because I’m not confused anymore by my body’s responses to how I treat it, and how I respond to external stressors.

A lot of “my tinnitus” really is my responsibility, cuz I focus extremely well, I have a history of overworking myself and giving too much to others for too little in return, and I have some close relationships that are going like shit. My powerlessness over others choosing abusive paths, no matter how much I argue for or try to convince or advocate more honorable and fruitful ways of interpersonal relating, left me in a state of overwhelm. Regarding financial well being, I’ve been so relentless about gaining passive, residual, online wealth ethically, that I have often neglected even to get up and stretch. That kind of fixed demanding is a state that tinnitus just loves, and frankly, I still do that. I get off on a “job well done,” and frankly, I’ve been titillated by my ability to, for example sink into a project so wholly that I emerge with either a prize winning album, a completed architecture project, a website, or who knows what, on the other end.

Here, at SWS, I am diving in wholly in order to emerge as a kick ass copywriter, for example.

There’s a way for me to do it while grinning and enjoying the ride (which is healthy), and there is a way for me to do it while gritting my teeth and demanding too much of myself (which is unhealthy).

Now, why SWS is really really important to me is that while my projects in the past have yielded some honor, financial reward, etc., it is exactly the financial exchange that I’ve found lacking. In a sense, SWS is a part of my personal “tinnitus cure,” if you will, because though I’ve been great at selling my services, providing services requires my personal time. What I want to do is SELL PRODUCT and hire a team to administrate those sales.

While thinking about my own inner salesperson, I realized that I am very good at selling my services, especially face to face. If I’m in a room with you and you feel the resonance of my past commitments, and how I simply do not say I can do something that I can’t, you believe me, and you hire me. It happens way more often than not.

So, now, if I can transpose that salesperson into my sales letters, and if the sales letters can bring in mega conversions, then I will be on a whole new level of effectiveness on this earth. Which is what I want: effectiveness.

So, I am not saying I found “a cure,” though that is the language that our culture speaks. I also own http://www.let-go-of-tinnitus.org (or something like that, I’d have to check again). The whole “culture of cure” is backwards in the US, but the essence of “cure” is what I have accessed. So, the word “cure” goes in two opposite directions. One is “I got cured,” which is not at all what I advocate, and the other is “I healed myself and had a rewarding ride,” which is what we teach at CureTinnitus.org.

Does that make sense? We really do empower people. We do not “cure” them.

OK, now to whittle that down to a sentence or two, to give my audience the real sense of settling, passion, and relief that I now feel.

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Yes, exactly.

A couple of short sentences that fill in this gap here:

…I traded in my frequent flyer miles on some server space and upgraded what had been a support forum and web log of my progress into a platform that would compel the world’s experts on tinnitus to grant me interviews.

here:

To make a long but satisfying story short and pithy: It worked.

It’s OK if with tinnitus “healing” is really “dealing”, but the reader should take that journey with you. Let them see your transition. You talk about the effort you put into finding answers (cashing in FF miles, etc.) but not what “worked” to make your tinnitus more manageable.

No need to dwell on this though, I see that you get what I meant.

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Post Posted: Mon Nov 02, 2009 8:03 am
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Rewrite:

Quote:
To make a long but satisfying story short and pithy: It worked. I went from desperately searching to comfortably accessing and integrating right-on-target healing information into my life…from the comfort of my own home. My out-of-control whirlwind ended with the compilation of CureTinnitus.org, which has become a resting place for the select few individuals out there smart and daring enough to claim true healing as their goal. We’ve designed a program…

…better?

You asked to include the audience more in the transition. Does that help?

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Yes, good, Dainis.

Just one detail I would add:

I went from desperately searching for a cure (and feeling hopeless) to comfortably accessing and integrating right-on-target healing information into my life..

Something along those lines to heighten the transition a bit.

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